Important Advice about Going on Retreat

by the Editors

Many of the communities in this directory have accommodation for people who wish to go on retreat. To help you, here are a few important points to note before you plan your visit.

ABOUT BOOKING
1. Always write to the community and make a booking for your stay. Do not turn up unannounced. Many communities' guest accommodation is fully booked in advance and you need to arrange your visit in good time with the guest brother or sister.

2. If you have to cancel your visit, please inform the community as soon as possible. This will enable another retreatant to use the room. If you book a long time in advance, please confirm the booking by telephone a few weeks beforehand.

3. When you book, tell the guest brother or sister if you have particular dietary needs, for example, if you are vegetarian. Also make known any other needs you may have, perhaps concerned with any disability, such as that you require a ground floor room. It is frustrating for everyone if you only make these requirements known once you are in residence.

4. Before you go, make sure you have with you all your essential personal items, such as a tooth-brush. Check too if you need to take your own towel and soap; this varies from community to community.

ABOUT STAYING
5. Respect the traditions of the house, for example, keep the silences as requested. Remember that some other guests may be on silent retreats, even if you are not, and they will not wish to engage in conversation. In many Religious houses, some, if not all, meals are taken in silence.

6. Remember that convents and monasteries and friaries are the homes of Religious brothers and sisters. Only use the parts of the house which are available to guests and treat the facilities with the care you would use in your own home.

7. In chapel, be thoughtful in participating at the Office and other services. Follow the lead of the community and join in with discretion. Even if you think your way would be an improvement, do not try to take over the recitation of psalms or the singing of hymns.

8. Most Religious houses give a guide as to the cost of your stay. Be honest and give what you can afford. If you are able to give more than the basic cost, this is of help to the community in caring for those less fortunate. Most communities are charities and depend on your generosity.